Couples Coaching & Relationship Agreements

Whether you're building a life together, raising a family, growing a company, leading an organization, or pursuing a shared mission, extraordinary outcomes require extraordinary partnership.

In fact, the success of the family, organization, company, or mission is often a direct reflection of the health, trust, and security of the partnership at its center. We know this to be true in our own marriage and family, and in every successful business partnership we've created, helped build and support.

What many partnerships miss is that they allow unspoken assumptions and implicit expectations to govern the relationship. It is surprisingly rare—in both personal and professional partnerships—to intentionally sit down and decide how we want to work together, relate to one another, navigate conflict, make decisions, give feedback, handle disappointment, and pursue a shared vision.

Instead, we rely on inherited models, unconscious assumptions, and personal histories to guide the partnership. Over time, these invisible agreements create misunderstandings, recurring conflicts, resentment, and misalignment. The partnership begins to operate below its potential.

When this happens, you optimize for avoiding friction rather than creating possibility. You negotiate from fear rather than trust. You spend your energy managing the relationship instead of consciously leading it.

You want a partnership that doesn't just survive the hard seasons but actually grows from them. One where your individual dreams and your shared dreams fuel each other instead of competing. Where the connection stays electric, not just comfortable. Where you're genuinely building something—together—on purpose.

When agreements become explicit, co-created, and regularly revisited, everything changes. Trust deepens. Alignment strengthens. Difficult conversations become easier. Conflict becomes productive. The partnership gains the capacity to create far more than either person could create alone.

That's the work we do at The Art of We.

We help couples, co-founders, business partners, and leadership teams consciously design extraordinary partnerships—and the extraordinary outcomes those partnerships make possible.

When Will and I created our 24 relationship agreements—which became our wedding vows and now form the foundation of our teaching—we weren't just trying to have a better relationship.

We were designing a leadership system.

Your partnership isn't separate from the rest of your life. It's the training ground for everything else. As husband and wife and business partners, we know this terrain well.

The way you navigate power with your partner teaches you how to navigate power at work.
The way you handle conflict at home shapes how you handle conflict everywhere.
The capacity you build for staying centered while deeply connected? That's the capacity that makes you an effective leader, parent, friend, and change-maker.

When your relationship operates on explicit agreements instead of invisible expectations, you free up an enormous amount of energy. Energy that was going into tension, interpretation, resentment, and repair can now go toward actually building the life and partnership you both want.

Every partnership is unique. Some couples come to me because they're stuck in recurring conflict. Some co-founders want to strengthen trust, alignment, and communication. Others are navigating growth, transition, leadership challenges, accumulated resentments, or simply know their partnership is capable of more than they're currently experiencing.

Our work begins by helping you identify the patterns, assumptions, and unspoken agreements that are shaping your partnership. Together, we create the conditions for more trust, honesty, alignment, accountability, and shared leadership.

Depending on your goals, we may focus on communication, conflict, decision-making, feedback, roles and responsibilities, explicit agreements, vision alignment, relational repair, or building a more intentional partnership operating system.

For partnerships seeking deeper transformational work, and where clinically appropriate, we may also incorporate psychedelic-assisted therapy. In these cases, I partner with psychiatrist and psychotherapist Dr. Will Van Derveer, co-founder of the Integrative Psychiatry Institute and co-author of the NY Times bestselling book Psychedelic Therapy. Psychedelic-assisted work can help uncover unconscious relational patterns, inherited beliefs, protective strategies, and unresolved dynamics that are often difficult to access through conversation alone.

Our approach is informed not only by decades of coaching, psychotherapy, leadership development, and relational work, but by our own lived commitment to conscious partnership. The 24 agreements that guide our marriage are also the foundation of how we navigate conflict, make decisions, pursue our shared vision, and continue growing together.

We don't believe there is one right way to do partnership.

We believe extraordinary partnerships are consciously designed.

Our role is to help you create the agreements, conversations, and relational practices that allow your partnership—and everything it supports—to thrive.

Partnership Coaching

Your Partnership Is Already Good.
Let's Make It Extraordinary.

This Is About More Than Your Partnership

We had glimpses of what we were here to do in the world, but it wasn't until we worked with you guys that it became super clear. Two years later we are actually living the vision we saw & we're putting everything into it!" - AD & LD

"A weight is lifted now of the obstacles that were in the way of creating our dream visions together. We have the tools & the support we need & I feel for the first time in a long time WE GOT THIS!" - MR

"It was one of the most powerful experiences I’ve ever had in my life & I’m so glad we got to share it together & frame it around our relationship" - RR

How We Work Together

Design a Partnership That Makes Everything Else Possible